As you get older you learn how to deal with people. You realize people talk with passion about themselves and in reality they are really just trying to convince themselves of who they are.
In the path of discovering yourself you want to come across of who you are but you just find yourself twisting your words to fit any given situation. People fail to understand its ok not to know who you are at certain phases of your life. It’s ok to say you’re discovering yourself, its ok to not know it all. That’s why it’s called “Growing Pains”
Why can’t we just enjoy “NOW”? Why do we worry so much of the future and what we have not done and what we need to do? Tomorrow is not guaranteed, so enjoy today and let tomorrow come. Do today what you can do. Don’t overload your plate for it will give you belly aches, headaches, stress, anxiety and/or insomnia. If you overload your plate you will soon worry about all the things you didn’t finish. That’s not living.
If we all accomplished everything we wanted and if we all knew who we are at a young age what is there to strive for? Life is an amazing rollercoaster; you just never know who is who and what is what. When you think you figured things out or people the Lord shines on you and opens your eyes to give you yet another revelation that nothing is what it seems to be. That we don’t know everything, so we shouldn’t pretend we do. Take everything as a grain of salt.
If you find yourself changing for others, let go it’s not good. We all should accept each other as is. We all need to change for our self not for anyone else. We are all different and that’s what makes this world beautiful. We all offer each other something to make this place a better place. If we cut the cord or push it to the side because we don’t agree then it will be impossible to bless each other and bring something to this world.
Forgiveness, acceptance and appreciation are something valuable to all relationships. Whether it’s marriage, friendship, business, fellowship or even dating we all need to forgive each other, accept each other, and appreciate each other. You have growned up when you learn how to forgive, accept and appreciate each other without contemplating it.
When you’re free to express what’s in your heart or head without worrying about what someone said, you have growned up. When someone in return says what is in their heart or head to you and you just listen and not get defensive you learned that you have grown up. See we think we know it all, we think we know ourselves well but there is always someone outside looking at you and see you for what you really are even if you don’t know yourself yet.
I uploaded this picture because the name of it is Wrestling Tree. The phase of discovering oneself is similar to the title of this picture. We wrestle with our thoughts, feeling and we question and doubt anything and everything we do, why? Because we simply don’t know and we always want to know everything, we always want to be right. We can never make a mistake and we can never be wrong. If we are trying to discover ourselves then how is it possible to never be wrong, never to make a mistake and never acknowledge that you have to others? We can’t be perfect. Only God is!
Our mistakes shapes us but only if we acknowledge them and learn from them. If we deny we ever made one or if we were ever wrong how do we grow from that?
Ah growing pains, you gotta love them!
